By – Jennifer Ifeoma Ugboh
Hey guys, happy new month. I still cant believe where the days went, like how is it already December? This has become sort of a recurring pattern building up over time; every year with so much joy in our hearts we all shout Happy New Year on Jan 1st and before we know it the days go skkkrrrrrrrrrr pa pa pa pa pa and its Christmas again, and we find ourselves wondering what happened with all the 365(6) days we had and why mans still not hot.
I am pretty sure we all had dreams, goals and resolutions at the beginning of the year and looking back now, we are not halfway near what we had planned. A lot of you might take it hard and see 2017 as a failed year but theres no use in staying down. I personally started the year on a high note; my only resolution at the beginning of this year was a burning desire to be better than I was last year in every aspect of my life. And if I am being entirely truthful with myself, I will admit that I am still on that transitional journey to self improvement.
This knowledge doesnt make me look down on myself In anyway, I understand that personal growth is a lifelong process and I am in it for the long haul so instead of beating myself up and feeling sorry, I level up and work at it each day. I recognize where I fall short, think of ways to re up and I go from there.
This might seem like a piece of cake but its not especially as we live in a generation where everybody seems to be doing stuff and getting it so to speak; if you are not touring the world, getting it (for lack of a better word) and making insta headlines then you are not winning. There is a sense of urgency in the air, its almost as if the world would come crashing down if we dont get it and so we schedule our goals, set unrealistic timelines because we have to blow, but this timed success only sets us up for failure. Please dont misunderstand me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being young and successful, whats wrong is putting undue pressure on yourselves and the obsessive need to make it. There are no hard and fast rules to making it in life, dont let the internet rush you.
That said, I understand that I am not nearly close to where I want to be but I am constantly evolving and committed to my growth. I am learning to practice strategies that works for me and they include; focusing on things that matter, simplifying everything, staying true to my values, asking for help (and accepting the help), filtering the outside noise, bng more present and learning to listen more.
So as we wind down 2017, let us let go of the notion that we have to make it at a set time to be considered successful. Life is really not that complicated. Over the next couple of weeks, I will be taking sharing more on lessons learnt this year as we prepare to say goodbye to 2017 and usher in 2018. XOXO.