By – Andrew MejireEtoh
Hello everyone, it brings be great pleasure to say Merry Christmas, hope you all have a wonderful time, because in my little way, I did. Back to our previous discussion, there are many things you should consider before you say I do. You see, at some point you might be under some pressure to settle down and have kids like most people around you but remember, marriage is a life long journey so be sure you are ready to take the plunge with the right person.
We previously established that before you get to the point where you make that life long commitment, theres usually the period of courtship. This is supposedly the phase you get to know each other well. Its true many can pretend and its also true, even in the pretentious phase, the signs you are getting involved with the wrong person is always there (if you are observant enough) Many women who suffer domestic violence in their homes saw the signs before they got married. Many went ahead with the marriage thinking the men would change and things would get better. This is merely fallacy of self-consolation, they hardly do.
Before saying i do, you should know that no matter how long it takes you to get married, you can never be sure of what you are getting into until you get there. Acquaint yourself with the fact that no marriage is perfect. No matter how cute and adorable a couple might look, They all have their battles they fight, what makes the difference is how they handle their battles.
Before you say I do, you need to look within and rid yourself of any form of immaturity; pettiness, possessiveness, jealousy, selfishness, and extremities that might harm your relationship.
Before you take the plunge you should get your priorities in line. If you are accustomed to hanging out with the guys six nights a week or hanging out with the girls in clubs on the weekend, it is time to change your priorities. If you think you can put yourself in these positions after saying I Do, you are setting yourself up for a failed relationship. Understand this; I am not saying you can no longer have fun, but you must respect your spouse when you take your vows. You should communicate your priorities well before setting a date for the big day.
Be prepared to give your all; You have heard the cute little saying, marriage is 50/50, right? Well, thats crap. It is not 50/50, in fact, it is more like, you give all you have and your spouse gives all they have, plus some. Marriage will chew you up and spit you out if you go into it thinking you can get by with giving half an effort. It does not work that way. Now as much as Id love to go on and on about many things you will need to know before you say I do, Id very much love to hear your opinion and hope you share your experiences. Once again, I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year ahead.