By – Pleasure Chizoba
The journey to parenthood is one that comes with absolute responsibility. I say this with all certainty that being a parent is fun. OMG! Someone would say, Pleasure are you serious? Yeah! All thanks to my experiences. I’ve observed and understood the relationship between kids and their parents. Sadly, most adults are not prepared for the responsibilities that comes with parenting. I’ve got few tips to help boost the parent-kid relationship.
- Boost Your Child’s Self-esteem Kids start developing their sense of self as babies when they see themselves through their parents’ eyes. Your tone of voice, your body language, and your expression are absorbed by your kids. Your words and actions as a parent affects the development of their self-esteem. Praising accomplishments, however small, will make them feel proud; letting kids do things independently will make them feel capable and strong. In contrast, belittling comments or comparing a child unfavorably with another will make them feel worthless.
- Set Limits and Be Consistent with Your Discipline Discipline is necessary in every household. The goal of discipline is to help kids choose acceptable behaviors and learn self-control. Prov 15:22 says “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but the rod of correction will drive it far from him”. They may test the limits you establish for them, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults. Establishing house rules helps kids understand your expectations and develop self-control. Some rules might include: no TV until homework is done, and no hitting, no name-calling or hurtful teasing allowed. Being consistent teaches what you expect. Now, we miss it when we relegate this duty to one parent. No! It’s a joint effort of both parents with the exception of a single parent.
- Make time for your kids It’s often difficult for parents and kids to get together for a family meal, let alone spend quality time together. Kids would love this more than anything. Kids who aren’t getting the attention they want from their parents often misbehave because they’re sure to be noticed that way.
- Know the primary love language of your kidCommunicate love to your child through his/her primary love language. By observing their behavior, you can learn of their love language. This will speak more deeply and eventually fill their love tank. I’ll recommend that you read “The 5 Love Languages ” by Dr. Gary Chapman. It will be very helpful.
- Be a Good Role Model Kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more cues they take from you. Be aware that you’re constantly being watched by your kids. Model the traits you wish to see in your kids: respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, tolerance. Exhibit unselfish behavior. Do things for other people without expecting a reward. Express thanks and offer compliments. Above all, make your kids wish for no other parent but you.